A common reason why many people find it difficult to form new friendships is that they don’t feel comfortable going up to someone new and talking to them. Sometimes this is due to shyness, but other times it can be due to worrying about what other people will think of them.
Though feeling this way isn’t unusual, taking steps to boost your confidence and self-esteem can make it easier to overcome that first hurdle.
Start by considering why you don’t feel confident – is it a result of past social experiences, even as far back as in our school days? If yes, then even a simple exercise such as writing these experiences down on paper, ripping them up, and throwing them away can be cathartic.
Sometimes we just need a reminder that how things have turned out in the past, aren’t necessarily how they will turn out in the future. Yes, you might find making friends a struggle, but this doesn’t make you weird or an outsider, you just haven’t met your tribe yet.
Other ways to boost your confidence and self-esteem can include practising positive thinking, being kind to yourself, and avoiding comparing yourself to others. You can read more about these in our article; 16 ways to improve confidence and self-esteem.