People’s jobs are one of the most important parts of their lives, so it’s natural that careers come up often in conversations between people who’ve just met.
If you’re trying to get to know your date, then asking them about what they do for a living is practically a must. After all, it’s hard to get a good understanding of who someone is if you don’t know how they spend the majority of their time!
And if you or your date are retired, it’s still worth getting to know what they were up to beforehand, as it’s no less a part of what has helped to shape them into the person they are today. Plus, the new adventures afforded by retirement are a great area to explore in conversation, too – why not explore how your date is using their increased free time to explore other hobbies and interests?
However, since chatting about careers is a particularly common date-night conversation topic, it does have the potential to be a little dry or uninspired. Many of these conversations go the same way and can end up feeling a little robotic.
In order to avoid this kind of mechanical discussion, try to be mindful of your reason for asking in the first place: to get to know your date and show them your genuine interest.
Instead of only asking the predictable questions, make an effort to listen closely to what they’re saying, ask follow-up questions, and relate your own experiences to theirs. Going through the motions of explaining what they do for the millionth time in the last month may be a little uninteresting for them, but being asked about their aspirations in life makes for much better conversation.